To many people, Tantric sex or Tantra sounds like something off the pages of sex bible, Kama Sutra, with its odd sounding positions like “The Lotus”, “The Eagle” and “The Jumping Spider”. Even the very name suggests something exotic and unknown.
But what exactly is Tantric sex?
The origins of tantric sex are rather vague since it’s been practiced for thousands of years, but we know the ancient art appears in eastern religions, mostly Hinduism and Buddhism. Tantric sex is an ancient Eastern spiritual practise that is thought to have been in existence for over five millennia.
It means “the weaving and expansion of energy”, and the teachings of Tantra were initially not focused on sexuality but were more about mastering and understanding our own energy. The amazing sex and orgasms were just a happy by-product.
Tantric practices offer the opportunity to not only enhance your romantic life but to also increase your health. If you’re curious about Tantra, here are guidelines for beginners in this archaic art of sexual intimacy.
Create a cozy environment
This should be an area that is very relaxed. Firstly, the room should be cleared off any material that can grab your attention. Next, decorate with candles, flowers and comfortable fabrics. Scent is really important to our sensuality; therefore, scented candles should do the trick.
You can also try natural oils like ylang-ylang, jasmine or rose. Ensure that your bed is as comfortable as possible with soft, clean sheets and a litter of pillows. A finally choose soothing music that you can both enjoy but would not easily distract you. Play it softly in the background to put you both in the mood.
Not just breathe, but breathe each other’s breath. Timing your breath to synchronize with your partner’s goes a long way in tantric sex. Straddle your partner’s lap and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, take in their breath into your body. In this way, you’re sharing all of your essence intimately with your partner.
Open Your Eyes
Opening your eyes while making love deepens intimacy in any sexual encounter between couples, but this is surprisingly harder to pull off than imagined. Do this with the intention of catching all the little glimpses of your partner when they are in the throes of passion. Witnessing the act of love is a truly profound experience.
Stay Off the Bed
The point of tantric sex is to have long, drawn out sexual intercourse that would eventually lead to orgasm. Staying on the bed would trigger the sleep button in the brain, making your sex session turn into a five minute quickie. Staying off the bed during tantric sex avoids this dilemma.
Massage! Massage! Massage!
The importance of massage therapy in tantra cannot be overestimated. Try a variety of touches – firm massage, light feathery touches, and gentle stroking here and there. The aim here is to heighten your partner’s senses in a slow and intense way so that you’re building them to a climax but not necessarily taking him all the way and vice versa. Performed in the right way this can prolong sex and your pleasure for hours
Talk to your partner during sex. Not about what you will have for dinner or who will pay this month’s electricity bills. Talk about sex. Tell your partner whether or not you like what they are doing. Tell them how they can improve and why you like what they are currently doing. Moaning during ex can only say so much. Open lines of communication are essential while having tantric sex.
Take it Slow
Foreplay is important in Tantric sex. Taking it slow and steady helps men control longevity and enhances women’s arousal. The longer it takes in this process of building a climax, the longer your session will last, and the more intense your orgasm will become.