29 C
Lagos
Tuesday, February 18, 2020
Advertisement

Shh, Don’t Tell: Are You Teaching Your Child to Lie?

Featured

Mom-to-be’s Cosmetics Chemicals Could Lead to Heavier Baby

When pregnant women use cosmetics containing parabens, their children may have a greater likelihood of becoming overweight, a new study suggests. Parabens are chemicals that...

Mental Health: Ending the Stigma Behind Getting Help

Mental health in America is a touchy subject as there is a social stigma attached to seeking help when help is needed. Mental illness is...

5 Best Family Movies

A great night in with the family should always include a fun family movie. There’s an assortment of titles to choose from, with a...

7 Things People Who Take Daily Meds Want You to Know

Needing to take medication every day is a challenge. From soaring drug costs to stigma against certain medications and conditions, here are a few...

5 Things to Consider Before Laser Hair Removal

I just want to wake up, shower, brush and go. I want a clean shave, too, except I just do not want to go...

How Birth Order Affects Your Kids

Not all of your kids can be first born, but the one who is has some definite advantages as well as some disadvantages the...

Zimbabwe: Binga Floods – Hundreds Perched in Trees Without Food

Hundreds of villagers are marooned between rivers in Binga's Siabua and surrounding areas with some perched in trees after heavy rains fell in the...

6 Tips to Help Prevent Migraines

Are you one of the over 39 million Americans who suffer from migraines? If so, there’s likely one thing on your mind – preventing...

Faster Signs of Aging? Know How About Anti-aging

Most people appear much older than their actual chronological age. Many young adults in their early 30’s start looking more than 40. Aging is...

Tips and Hints for Cooking With Honey

Honey is a special food that has numerous uses. The most interesting part is that it's completely natural, never expires, and has no side...
Avatar
Editor
Editorial Staffs at Healthtian, A team of Writers.

We often wonder where our 3 year old learned to tell a fib or to keep secrets. Well, most often it is from the parents, grandparents, or even their siblings.

Advertisement

All it takes is hearing someone else telling a lie or actually being asked to do so for whatever reason, and a habit is formed. No matter how harmless the lie may be, it is still a lie and this behavior can lead to some damaging consequences.

I caught my own mother sneaking my son a cookie right before bed. This made me a little upset because I do not allow him to have sugary snacks before gong to bed.

However, what really angered me was hearing her tell him, “Don’t tell your mother”. I was surprised that she would be teaching him to keep things from me at this young age.

When I spoke with her about it, she failed to see the seriousness of the matter and thought it was funny to do this. However, she did agree that she would not do it again in the future. We shall see.

I know that I have been guilty of telling lies in my life and keeping secrets as well. We are all likely guilty of doing so at some point in our lives.

I realized something frightening that I wanted to share with all of you: When our children  are taught to keep things from us or tell lies, this opens up the floodgates for so many bad things to take place in our children’s lives, and they are afraid to open up to us about it.

Sadly, the words “Don’t tell” are the motto of every creep out there in the world. They want to manipulate our children into keeping their dirty secrets and for centuries, it has worked.

Children are so afraid to tell their parents what happened to them for fear of punishment when they are made to believe they are bad by the predator.

We need to make our children feel comfortable in telling us when they experience good and bad things. When they make mistakes or do things that they know they shouldn’t be doing, teach them with love.

Advertisement

I’m not suggesting that there be no consequence for their bad behavior, but they need to know that no matter what, they can come to you. Beating them with a frying pan for being late will not likely win you any brownie points.

Start communicating early in life; that way it will only grow stronger as the years go by.

More articles

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

Trending now

Eating Vaginal Discharge and It’s Health Benefits

For many people, vaginal discharge is a sign that a woman is ready and willing to have sex. Vaginal fluid is a whitish fluid...

Genital Warts: Do They Go Away Naturally? What to Expect?

Human Papilloma Virus is the causative organism for genital warts. The virus is available in various strains, and it can be contacted by many...

9 Diseases That Lemon Can Destroy!

Lemon is one of nature’s many wonders. The citrus fruit has numerous health and beauty benefits – it can reinforce the immune system, improve...

Anklet Charms and Hot Wives What Do They Mean?

Women all over the world love to accessorise. From putting on necklaces to wearing makeup and buying the latest trending clothes, women are ready...

Kinky Sex Punishment Ideas You Should Try

Is your submissive being a spoilt little brat? Are you noticing some unwanted behaviour? Do not be dismayed. Sometimes subs can be naughty, and...

Cold Water Vs Warm Water: One of Them is Damaging to Your Health

Most people reach for a cup of coffee or a cold cup of water right upon waking up. But, it turns out that in...

How to Increase Appetite in Children Naturally?

Poor appetite is the leading cause of malnutrition in children; every child pass through this phase at a point in their lives, others make...

Is Zobo Drink Healthy for Pregnant Women?

Zobo drink is a popular drink in Nigeria and it is loved by many; this common drink is made with hibiscus flower and it...

Photos of Women’s Orgasm Faces Show True Female Desire Is Nothing Like Porn

A photographer has captured women’s faces before, during and after they orgasm to lift the lid on real female sexuality. Brazilian photographer Marcos Alberti said...

7 Standing Sex Positions

Sex is more appealing when you do it in various ways and in many different places altogether. The best way to achieve his is...

Friends