Household or family meetings seem to have gone out of style, but there are many reasons that you may want to bring back the tradition by holding them with your family.
We all know how hectic family life can be. We’re busy changing diapers, feeding baby, and making sure everything in our homes is safe and healthy.
As they grow older we’re endlessly involved in running kids to their activities, appointments, and allowing time for those individual heart-to-heart talks.
Family dinner time is a good way to connect and interact as a family, but may not be a good time to discuss some family issues.
This is why it’s a good idea to have an additional household meeting. Here you can discuss things that might not be good for your digestion while eating the evening meal.
A regular family meeting should be an open, harmonious time when all members of the family can feel safe and accepted.
Everyone’s opinion should be given equal consideration. Open communication is the key. You can use the time to talk about family rules, settle conflicts, and recognize good behavior.
You’ll want to decide how often to hold your meetings. Some families choose to have weekly meetings, but if this doesn’t fit for your family try to hold one at least once a month. Pick a date and time that everyone will be able to attend.
These should be mandatory meetings, however realize that on occasion there will no doubt be a conflict for someone. They shouldn’t be made to feel bad about it as long as it doesn’t become a habit.
One person should take the role of leader so that everyone isn’t talking at once and you cover everything you need to. You can run a business-like meeting where those wanting to speak must be recognized by the leader.
Or a more relaxed way to keep things running smoothly is to choose an object for the person speaking to hold. Everyone else has to remain silent while the other holds the object. Expect interruptions from younger kids until they get the hang of how things work.
Kids will feel more involved if you rotate the responsibilities of leader, secretary, and time keeper. The leader will be in charge of keeping things running smoothly, the secretary keeps the minutes, writes down any agreements, and notes any deadlines or appointments on the calendar.
The time keeper makes sure the meeting is ended at the agreed upon time and can give a warning ten minutes before the limit so things can be wrapped up. You should try not to interfere and only step in when assistance is needed.
End your meeting with a fun activity. It’s a nice way to enjoy each other and will calm things down if your meeting got a little heated.
A household meeting will help teach your kids to be respectful, listen to others, and problem solving skills. We as parents will enjoy getting some things straightened out and having everyone together in one place for awhile.