There are so many social phobias of which anuptaphobia is one of them. Anuptaphobia is the irritational fear of being or staying single. This type of fear is not a minor one as it disrupts the phobics’ life due to its intensity.
This phobia relates in terms of gamophobia, which is the fear of marriage. People who suffer from anuptaphobia may have severe cases that they may never be single due to the fear and anxiety of being alone.
They are never really single because they go from one relationship to the other for fear of being single till they are old and dying single. This fear is actually surreal as no one is able to predict their future if they will end up single or not.
People with anuptaphobia make painstaking efforts to remain in a relationship. They would rather be in a destructive and abusive relationship with the promise of a lifetime commitment because they dread what will happen if they remain single.
An essential focus of someone with anuptaphobia is finding the ideal partner in which they make the topmost priority in their life. Conquering the fear of anuptaphobia is extremely difficult, and the sufferer may allow their phobic tendencies to take over their lives.
Symptoms of Anuptaphobia
Symptoms of Anuptaphobia can go from mild to alarming. Symptoms vary among people, and they may experience trembling, heart palpitations, rapid speech, elevated blood pressure, nausea, dread, worry, low self-esteem, intense anxiety, jumping into quick relationships, inability to cope with strong emotions, and depression, if not handled carefully, may develop into full-blown depressive disorders.
They lack confidence in themselves and prefer being hurt physically and psychologically in a relationship than being single. This irrationality and ineptness bring emotions like shame, sadness, and fear, allowing them to cope with the mental anguish and deepens their anuptaphobia.
These symptoms make them so desperate and over-concerned with being in romantic relationships with people whom they do not want to be with just to simply fill the thoughts of not wanting to be single. This brings additional problems increasing the effects of their phobia
Causes of Anuptaphobia
Anuptaphobia is among the listed social phobias with complex causes that are not easily defined. There is no definite cause of this phobia. People who have anuptaphobia may not have a simple explanation for this phobia.
However, this phobia arises from external events, internal predispositions, genetics, hereditary, brain chemistry, and life experiences.
- External events: Traumatic experience, such as their heart being broken by someone they love, which triggers anuptaphobia.
- Genetics: Having a family with specific phobias and anxiety disorder can increase one’s risk of having anuptaphobia due to a genetic disposition. With such genetic traits, once they experience some sort traumatic event, they develop full-blown anuptaphobia
Other environmental factors that can trigger anuptaphobia are childhood events of being frequently teased. These events bring a feeling of inadequacy, and if the feelings are intense with genetic backup, they trigger this phobia in the person.
Anuptaphobia may also be as a result of deep personal insecurities like having a poor image of oneself and at loathing. People who are convinced that they are not good enough because they have a bad conviction about themselves have a strong desire not to be single because they believe being in a relationship or having a significant other would feel that void within them and fix their personal insecurities.
It is important to note that there is no medicinal treatment for anuptaphobia. Drugs given can only help suppress the symptoms of this phobia but may also have adverse side effects; however, there are ways this phobia can be handled.
How to deal with anuptaphobia
People who suffer from anuptaphobia can overcome this phobia if handled rightly.
Most people who have anuptaphobia are not aware that their thinking patterns are wrong. Continuous talk sessions with a therapist will enable them to see their default thinking patterns, learn advantageous ways of coping with the symptoms, and effect new behavioural changes.
The purpose of exposure therapy is to expose patients to their fears gradually. With time they get to realize that their fears may not be as harmful as they perceive it to be.
The more fear they are exposed, the less bothered they are of those fears. It is usually advised that this therapy be implemented by an experienced professional therapist due to the intense anxiety involved.
However, those who have mild anuptaphobia do not need therapy sessions. Therapy is only needed when the phobia is so intense that it affects their daily activities and life choices.
Many people do not allow the fear of ending up alone, overwhelm their common sense of reasoning. Also, the fear of being alone is a good sign, but you need to seek a solution if it becomes intense and beyond your control.