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6 Reasons You Should Move in With Your Significant Other Before You Get Engaged

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Emmanuella Ekokotu
Ekokotu Emmanuella is a sociologist and Anthropologist, writer, and fashion model who lives in Benin city, Edo state,Nigeria.

I and my fiance decided we should move in together just a little over two years ago. That was a decision we had to take for reasons best known to him, and seven months after that we got engaged.

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Before we decided to take the bold step, we had dated for a little over three years, but that did not mean that I was considering cohabiting.

As a matter of fact, I am one of those people who does not buy the idea of cohabiting, and I had always imagined that I’d have to wait until I was married to move in with a man in my life.

However, after a series of discussions and weighing the pros and cons of moving in together, we decided that if we got a place together and moved in we would see things differently and maybe live happily ever after.

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My fiance and I have been living together for over two years now, and I can only tell you it is one of the best decisions that I ever made.

Even though I respect those who are still of the opinion that you must wait until marriage or engagement before you move in with the person you’re seeing, I also believe that if you consider the reasons below you just might decide it is time to move in with your significant other.

1. you’re giving the time to adapt to one life change before getting involved in another

If I will be honest living with my fiance wasn’t really so much of an adjustment that I had to make even though I feared it would be a tasking thing. It is one of the most seamless transitions I’ve ever had.

I would like to believe that the reason it was easy for me to adjust to living with him was that we didn’t live far from each other in the first place. And most of the time, he would come to spend the night at my home, and I will do the same.

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Despite moving in together being a little easy for us, we still needed to adapt to this new aspect of our love life. And it was also nice to be able to adjust without drowning ourselves in wedding plans just yet, or trying to get used to the life of a married couple.

What I’m trying to say now is that we had time to get to know each other and teller rate each other before making plans for a wedding.

2. You won’t have a problem deciding what to put on your wedding registry when the time comes

When my fiance and I moved in together, we put our small belongings together to set up our tiny little apartment.

And in a short period, we decided we don’t want to live like college students anymore, so we decided to acquire a couple of grown-up things like a washing machine at works and furniture.

We also got to understand each other better, and we knew the things that we liked and things that we could not tolerate.

We realised what works for us and what doesn’t and we were able to setup veritas right to know what we want and what we need.

So when the time came for us to register for our wedding gifts, it was easy for us to decide what to include and that makes things far less overwhelming.

3. You can take time for wedding planning without feeling choked up

If there is one thing the entire world agrees on it is a fact that planning a wedding is extremely stressful and sometimes can leave you confused.

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It appears that when you’re planning a wedding, there is a simile endless amount of tasks that must be handled and every little bit of time you have you just want to squeeze some of those things in it.

There is no such thing as free time when you’re planning a wedding. So when you have so much time to prepare before the wedding, it makes things a lot easier, mainly because you and your significant other are in the same place and you do not have to think of one thing and have them counter it.

4. If there is any financial kink that has to be worked out before you are legally linked, you can do them

Some couples plan to merge their finances fully; others think it is better to maintain separate accounts. But whatever your decision is, you still inevitably have to make a lot of joint money-related decisions once the both of you become one in marriage.

Money is one very critical topic in marriages from what I have learnt and experienced. And also, it is a primary factor in everything from maintaining your home to buying things, feeding your kids, investing in furniture planning a trip etc.

For my fiance and I, the time we have spent together living in the same apartment has given us an opportunity to learn and also discuss what it’s like to share fiscal responsibility.

We started with a notebook where we wrote down every single expense were made, and at the end of the week, we did simple math to figure out how much we had spent and how we were able to split the cost evenly.

This made me very confident that when we become legally married money problems will not be warned that we would have to deal with more often because we already got to that point where we understand each other when it comes to spending money and saving.

5. You get to enjoy a lot of simple moments together

Before you move in together with your significant other, you probably would have spent lots of time together sometimes going grocery shopping as a pair having sleepovers sharing a meal or visiting friends together.

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In other words, all the time is spent together I usually planned but once you move in along, there are those moments when you find it too difficult and tiring to go out so you’ll end up staying home all day and stealing quick kisses.

Living together with your significant other helps both of you appreciate each other more before you finally get married.

6. You finally get to decide whether you are compatible

The key to every successful union is compatibility. When you move in together with your significant other before you get engaged or married, you get to understand each other better.

Sometimes there are certain characters you might not notice when you live apart, but when you live together, you would be able to figure out whether or not you can deal with those characters or if they would make or break your relationship when you finally get married.

If you’re a very neat person and your significant other is one of those who are neat on the outside and dirty on the inside, living together with them will help you iron out such issues before you finally tied the knot.

What is your opinion about moving together with the person you are dating? Let us know all about it by leaving a comment in the comment section provided below will look forward to interacting with you.

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