Home Relationships 10 Things That Can Happen...

10 Things That Can Happen to Moms When They Have Their First Child Before Marriage

For some reasons, many couples choose to have their first child before getting married and living together as a family. The cost of a wedding and even the high rate of divorce are putting many couples away from the institution of marriage.

But sadly many single mothers are not in this situation by choice. Some reasons why women end up being solo moms include;

  1. Fear of commitment: These are women who do not want to be under the control of a man.
  2. Running away from a turbulent relationship while pregnant.
  3. Some women just wanted to explore parental rights or have a feel of parenthood.
  4. Loss of partner while pregnant or with a child.

10 Things That Can Happen When Moms Have Their First Child Before Marriage

Having a baby before marriage is not something one should be ashamed of. Although it comes with more responsibilities, you should know about some things you may have to face or deal with when your baby comes before marriage.

  1. You will embrace marriage and not feel trapped by it: Since she has lived with her partner before marriage and has had a baby, she wouldn’t think that she is getting married just to have kids and this will make their commitment stronger and unbreakable.
  2. You can choose to let your child have your surname: A child born outside of marriage can automatically take the mother’s surname unless the mom specifically registered the fathers’ name at birth.
  3. You may not have enough income to take care of the child: A larger percentage of single moms struggle financially and they tend to work full time just to earn more. And by so doing spend lesser time with the child and this can cause them their relationship with the child. And are often threatened or feel insecure about losing their jobs if they should stay away from work to tend to the child especially when the baby is sick.
  4. The baby may likely be eligible for support: Moms who have their first kid before marriage may be likely supported by the government(in some countries) and the child’s father. As long as they are not yet married, the father of the child is obliged to pay child support to the mom.
  5. You may get questioned by family and friends: If a baby arrives before wedding preparations are made, It is natural for some family members and friends to hope and assume that a wedding invitation is on its way. And if they feel it’s delaying, they’ll start questioning and lecturing you on the importance of marriage forgetting that an unhappy marriage can also be damaging for a child just as a divided home can damage a child.
  6. You do not have rights to partners properties: A woman who lives with a partner she is not married to does not have same rights as a woman who is legally married as she will not be regarded as the man’s next of kin and will have no rights to his properties if the man dies. She may even be forced to leave the home they shared.
  7. The child may face negative comments from people: At every point in life, there are always people who feel that judging others is their right. Most of these people do not acknowledge that they have made their mistakes too but they feel justified and satisfied by commenting on other people’s life situations. Having a child before marriage might be one’s choice or an inevitable situation one was forced into. And these people might continuously remind the child that he/she was born before the parents made a commitment and if you think there’s need to defend your decisions, you should remind everyone who criticizes your child that you’re doing your best for yourself and child.
  8. You may need to ask for help: As a mom with child and yet to get married, you do not have to take the responsibility of caring for the child alone. You can seek support from family members or support groups.
  9. Your child may have a less stable upbringing: If for some reasons the child will have to stay alone with you as her mom or stay separated from both parents in her early years of life, she may likely have behavioral issues and suffer from a complex family situation. And if not addressed properly may cause the child to suffer from emotional problems making her upbringing to be complicated and less stable than you thought it would be.
  10. Parenthood might become your priority over a wedding: When planning for a wedding, and a child appears before the wedding could take place, the couple may decide to put the wedding off or on hold and consider parenthood as a current priority. When the child’s financial demands gradually start to appear, they may probably start saving money towards expenses like fees and with time she might forfeit her wedding for child’s education.
Loveth Oghara
Interesting, Smart, and Simple

Trending Posts

Slimming Down This Fall: 5 Celebrity Weight Loss tips

The mere uttering of the word "diet" can send fear into the hearts of many. It conjures up images of hunger pangs, lethargy, and...
- Advertisement -

Skin Rashes: Causes, Symptoms and Effective Home Remedies

Skin rashes are common skin problems experienced by millions of people worldwide; it is characterized by a visible change in the color and texture...

Eating Vaginal Discharge and It’s Health Benefits

For many people, vaginal discharge is a sign that a woman is ready and willing to have sex. Vaginal fluid is a whitish fluid...

Genital Warts: Do They Go Away Naturally? What to Expect?

Human Papilloma Virus is the causative organism for genital warts. The virus is available in various strains, and it can be contacted by many...

Anklet Charms and Hot Wives What Do They Mean?

Women all over the world love to accessorise. From putting on necklaces to wearing makeup and buying the latest trending clothes, women are ready...

A Few Reasons Why Its OK to Go Braless

Having a bra on for long hours is one of the most uncomfortable things that a lady has to deal with almost every day....

Kinky Sex Punishment Ideas You Should Try

Is your submissive being a spoilt little brat? Are you noticing some unwanted behaviour? Do not be dismayed. Sometimes subs can be naughty, and...

Sugar in Watermelon: How Much and Health Implications for Diabetes

Watermelon is a delicious fruit, but have you ever wondered if there is so much sugar in watermelon? For many of us, watermelon is...

Small Penis: Enlargement Techniques and Ways to Have Sex

The penis usually comes in different forms, sizes, and colors. For size, they can be thick, thin, or even in between. For colors, they...

Trypophobia (Fear of Holes) – Symptoms, Causes, and Treatments

Trypophobia (Fear of Holes) is defined as a condition whereby individuals experience an aversion or fear to clusters of tiny holes.This condition is triggered...

Spider Bites: Symptoms, Treatment & Identification

Spider bites in the United States are often annoying but they are rarely fatal. If a person gets bitten by a black widow spider...


Stay Connected

Get our Wellness newsletter

Nurture yourself with health tips, wellness advice, and more.

Related Posts

7 Types of Toxic Partners That Destroy Your Life

Everyone would always assume their partner is perfect and would still want to look beyond their flaws. The romance, the love texts, the promises,...

5 More Ways to Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work

Many people are into long distance relationships. While some actually have the best time of their lives in this kind of relationship, others find...

10 Celebrities Who Decided to Call Quits on Their Relationship

2018 so far has been a spectacular year in the celebrity world. Quite a number of things have happened this year in Hollywood.We have...

How to Date Online?

Countless single people all over the world are now trying to make online acquaintances. Why is it so popular? A modern lifestyle highly values...

Why Talking May Not Be Good for Your Relationship

For as long as most of us can remember we have been advised that whenever we are having problems with relationships, especially the romantic...
- Advertisement -


Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here